I am madly in love with a married woman!

Dear Hillie:I am madly in love with a married woman who I work with. It all started last year when I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 years and she was going through a rocky patch with her husband of 3 years. After a few months of being friends and getting to know each other I told her how I felt. She told me she had no idea and only saw me as a friend.  I then told her I would rather have her as a friend than not at all.
Over the next few days and weeks, we would speak a lot via text and calls and met for a drink once as well. I then asked her if she would give me a chance if she left him (at this point she was going to leave him, so she said) and she said she would “probably consider it”. We haven’t spoken properly for a while now as she is working on her marriage. I am in a situation where I can’t move on.

Hillie says:You told this lady that you “would rather have her as a friend than not at all” but a few weeks later you put her on the spot again when you asked her if “she would give me a chance if she left him”!  She wants a ‘friend’ and that is why you haven’t heard from her. If she had any romantic feelings for you I feel she would have given you clear positive indications by now instead of the contrary. She is working on her marriage and now you have to move on and not contact her anymore for both your sakes.