I made love to my best friend’s boyfriend

Dear Hillie

Rachel and I have been close friends since Prep school. I recently had to leave my flat and Rachel let me stay with her and her boyfriend Andrew until I found a new flat. The more time I spent with Andrew, the more I knew that we had something between us, and last week I made love to him in Rachel’s bed whilst she was at work. Although Rachel is my best friend I feel Andrew could be the great love of my life. What should I do?

Hillie says:

Move out at once. Rachel was a good friend to you when you were in difficulties and you have totally abused her friendship – who needs enemies when they can have a best friend like you! Also, what sort of a man is Andrew to betray his girlfriend in her own bed under her own roof? If he can behave this way to Rachel, you can be assured he would probably do the same to you too! There are certain unwritten rules in this life, and one of them is ‘look but never touch a friend’s partner or ex’. If you have any loyal feelings left at all for Rachel, you will make sure she never hears about this episode from either of you.